Like many others who crossed Wes' path, I feel honored and blessed to
have known him as a friend.
I met Wes 15 years
ago at Berklee. We soon grew to be music buddies and shared the stage
and recording studio together many times. I could often be found at
his Boston apartment after-hours as well. Wes was cool. Wes could really
play. He earned respect from his peers not only by his gifted musicianship,
but by his unique persona as well. Wes was quiet. Wes was odd. Wes was
enigmatic. He was also a killer player. One didn't begin to know Wes
right away. If you wanted a deeper look, you had to earn your way in.
When Wes moved to
LA, where I lived, we hung out together in his first little apartment.
We'd sit on the floor and watch a movie and eat pasta & pesto sauce
in a jar and basically be nerdy unemployed artists (a.k.a.losers) together.
Very early on I realized he was a good pal - one you could call on anytime
and just be yourself around.
Wes was quite different
from the other friends I had at the time. He was quiet, but very perceptive
in the most unique ways. He always had a refreshingly unique outlook
on life. In an ocean of mediocre musicians who inflated their own importance,
Wes was truly an island of humility and sincerity, an island with prodigious
talents hidden under the surface.
I am surely not alone
in regarding Wes as genuinely brilliant. He was the first bass player
I would call for any gig, period. I was quite spoiled, actually, to
be able to have him play all the time before everyone else started snapping
him up with ever loftier & higher-profile gigs. Still, Wes was the
same guy I'd always hung out with. Despite the applause, the exposure,
crazed fans, world tours, changing phone #s and email addresses every
month, one thing remained the same - Wes was still my true friend I
could call anytime.
Wes was also an inspiration
because he had so many other gifts and talents besides music. A natural
athlete, he accompanied me on several backpacking trips to Yosemite.
I remember vividly being on top of Half-Dome and seeing Wes about 200
yards away waving at me urgently with both hands. Behind us was this
huge dark cloud that had appeared out of nowhere and was now rumbling
& thundering and approaching the summit. I ran over to him and we
exchanged a classic "What the &^%$ do we do now?" look.
Well, we went down those cables on the side of the summit as fast as
anyone ever did in the history of the park! We got down not long before
lightning struck the summit. Wes liked to recall that story a lot.
Wes would often come
down to my house to visit and stay, even though I moved two hours south
of LA. There'd be no plans, just "Hey, can I come down and hang
?"
My girlfriend Jackie considered it a great accomplishment seeing Wes
add our organic garden produce onto his increasingly rarified diet.
He played bass and contributed beautifully on the music that Jackie
& I did with no thought of reward or compensation. We were exceptionally
honored to have so great a talent coming from such a pure intention
as his. The rare instances where he'd get mad or swear at me were limited
to the times when I'd insist on paying him for a gig.
He blew up my bass
amp. He borrowed (and didn't return) a lot of my clothes. He had the
annoying habit of putting the most exceedingly unflattering pictures
of me on the I, Claudius website. We took his old pathfinder out to
the mountains four-wheeling and beat the crap out of it. He played on
my albums. He was there when our friend Jeanne was shot in a drive-by.
I saved him with a rope from falling off a mountainside of granite that
he wormed his way along in utter foolishness. He hipped me to the best
music. He asked me to join his band. We played the worst gigs
We
were buddies.
Wes had a full lifetime
of adventures. He worked hard. He played beautifully. He explored new
pursuits and inspired others to explore their possibilities. His music,
his love of photography, his appreciation of Nature, his zeal for travel,
his athletics, his ever expanding group of unusual friends
He
traveled the world and shared his gifts with so many others. He truly
was a blessing to all those that knew him.
I eventually came
to regard Wes as part of my extended family. Grieving Wes' loss has
made me realize we were more kindred spirits than I had consciously
known before. He knew me well. We came to understand one another like
brothers, actually. An understanding that has its own roots, based not
on words alone, but on common vernacular between two people that have
seen and shared so much. It is one of the very highest blessings and
purposes in life to understand and be understood by another. The friendship
Wes and I shared was the fulfillment of this. For that I am truly grateful.
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